Wednesday, March 23, 2005

Prayers: Dr. Dyke, Sperm, and June

Last week I tried to make an appointment with an ob/gyn. Another new doctor. Dr. Knife, the last ob/gyn I saw for the first and last time, wanted to cut me open more or less on the spot. I declined her invitation and never called her again. Why do my liasons with ob/gyns resemble bad relationships? (Doc: "You said you'd call. You never called." Me: "Well, I've been busy." Doc: "Too busy for me? This isn't healthy.") I've never had an ob/gyn for more than two years. In college I saw a great nurse practionner, but then I graduated. In grad school I found another great nurse practionner, but she left the badly run clinic for a better paying more prestigious position. Who can blame her? But she totally left me in the lurch. I loved her. It was a painful break-up.

I found some recommendations this time around and started with the most recommended doctor on my list. Silly me-- Of course she was booked into the next decade. I asked about a cancellation list, but they don't do that there. And sure, why would they? She's not exactly suffering for patients. I told the receptionist I'd take that appointment in October of 2015, but I might need to call back and cancel if I found an earlier appointment someplace else.

Guess what? She wouldn't let me schedule the appointment.

Evil Receptionist: "Well, if you're just going to call back and cancel, I'm not going to schedule you to see Dr. Popular. "
Me (aghast): "What? You won't schedule me?"
Evil Receptionist: "Yes, if you want to call around town and see what you can find, I'll take your appointment only after you do that."
Me (scheming): "Okay then-- I won't cancel. I can wait ten years for a yearly pap. No problem. Book me in.I really want to see Dr. Popular."
Evil Receptionist: "No. If you call back in fifteen minutes, I'll take your appointment at that time. But I won't do it now."

Okay-- I get it. Clearly this is not the doctor's office for me, despite the fact it's five minutes from my house and everyone loves Dr. Popular and I will now probably be forced to see some hack who will second Dr. Knife and want to slice open my stomach and burn things with lasers.

The second doctor on my list was Dr. Dyke. Her office staff was much more friendly from the start. I can get in to see Dr. Dyke April 21. I took it. I am hoping that Dr. Dyke will help us and guide us in the right direction. We need a doctor's signature so we can get some sperm shipped to us (if we want to do ICI), but I kinda think we should do IUI-- it might improve the chances? But I don't know if an ob/gyn can do IUI in the office, or if we're going to need a specialist? And if we need a specialist, how long will the waiting list be for that doctor? Arg. My strongest hope is that if Dr. Dyke cannot help us with IUI in her office, then she'll be able to pull some strings and get us in someplace a little faster. I'm not above begging. Or pulling out the lesbian solidarity card. (This is real-- after you get the toaster, a little card comes to you in the mail you can use for emergency purposes.)

Remember when I said we wanted to start trying in February? Or March? Here's March, coming and going, and we still don't even have any bloody sperm. My revised goal: first attempt in June. Please June. I feel lucky with June. If it worked the first time out, then the wee babe would be born in February. Everyone in my family is born in February (except me and one of my brothers.)

It'd be such a beautiful start to summer...


Blogger Career Guy said...

I don't know a thing about any of this, but I wish you the best in your quest. I'm sure no child will be loved as much as yours--lucky kid!

8:00 PM  
Blogger Firefly said...

February is good, not to close to xmas, so no muissing out on birthday gifts, and still during the school year so a birthday party for school friends is possible, very important things to consider eh? I think maybe you should make an appointment with Dr. Popular just in case Dr. Dyke falls through, that way you are not falling any further behind can always call and cancel no matter what the crabby lady on the phone said....some poor soul will thank you for it when she can get an appointment sooner(they have to have a cancellation list, it is just good business sense) I hope Dr. Dyke is the one for you, shopping around for Doctors is one of lives less rewarding pursuits. Happy Easter!

2:36 PM  
Blogger Soul Searching said...

I can't think of a better way to start the summer! It's taking longer than you wanted, but I believe it's because the best possible sperm is making it's way to you. And I agree with firefly's comment on February - good time of year for a baby!

6:40 PM  
Blogger Katie (WannaBeMom) said...

I think February would be good too. We are traditionally at the beach in August, and the baby would be six months then, and that seems doable. And fun. How awful is that? Time the baby to the beach vacation? Arg.

9:00 AM  
Anonymous sylvia said...

I just want to whis you all good luck. Im sitting here three days after insemination and wonder if I'm pregnant these time, or if it is bad luck these time to. It is our 5th try, and we really feel that it is our time to get pregnant now.

Im going to blogroll you, I hope thats ok?

9:32 AM  

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